Originally Posted by
Cookie Tray
How exactly do you feel that people are being "in your face" about being trans? What behaviors or actions bother you enough to say that? That's good for your brother, it sounds like he chooses to live in stealth. That's often done for safety and protection and not necessarily because that's what a person wants. I'm not saying that's what your brother is doing, but it does happen.
Many of us cannot hide being trans. Some of us (myself included) are very visibly trans. Very often it's trans women early in transition or nonbinary trans people (nonbinary women, genderqueer, and genderfluid especially are the ones I see most often talking about this). We're not trying to be "in your face," we're simply living life the way we need to. Even many binary trans people can be very visibly trans, because not all trans people want to conform to societal ideals of their gender OR their gender presentation, which is a separate thing. Some binary trans men will happily wear dresses and makeup because that's how they feel gender euphoria. For you to see that as somehow offensive to your senses (as "in your face") is unfortunately a deep-seated bigotry you need to work on unlearning in private.
There's also nothing wrong with trans people being out and proud or loud about who we are. This is how social change comes about, and to want to dampen that is to want to silence trans people in society. You cannot quietly hide us away: we are here, we have always been here, and we will not be going anywhere.
You also don't exactly know how your brother views his trans identity and relates to other people, cis and trans, or his place in society with regard to it, so it's very off-putting of you to speak on his behalf...