Yesterday was quite the day - some of you may have seen me post about it around the forum/discord about the masters program I was trying to get accepted into, this is about that, haha. I graduated last year on Veterinary Medicine, and have been planning to work on research and eventually become a professor since day one, and getting accepted on this program was a huge deal for me. I had been studying like crazy, and my test was scheduled for March 1st - it consisted of two parts, a debate about a scientific article and an interview; I thought I had been terrible (and still think I didn't get that good of a grade, but I'll have my official placement next week) but the support from the cK community and my RL friends was more than what I could have ever asked for, and you guys really helped me to keep my head up during this time; I really got no words thank you all.
Yesterday I got a call from the professor that would be my advisor if I passed and one of the heads of the department I wanted to join - my first thought was "fuck, he's going to tell me I didn't pass and that I should do a few masters' subjects on the side and try again next year", but to my surprise he called me to congratulate me and welcome me on the team! So hell yeah I did pass! I just achieved one of my major life goals, so I'm quite excited! This leads me to another situation though: my current job.
Warning: huge text coming, feel free to skip. Advice is very welcome though!
They were supposed to follow that "guide", but they didn't. On our first meeting to start out the semester, I was told I would have 3 classes that do not follow what I had chosen - they were after 6pm, so I wasn't happy but it was doable. That was until March came along - my boss told me I would be taking on students that missed classes and had some difficulty when learning English (I'll use MC/DLE for short lol), which meant I would be teaching students different students every single hour, 12h a week at first - with that, I would be working from 9am to 9pm on Mondays and Wednesdays, and from 9am to 7:30pm on Tuesdays and Thursdays. That was clearly not what I signed up for - and, with that constant switching between students, I was terrified of what would happen, because I can't handle constant change very well. I talked to my therapist, and we came to the conclusion I should try to keep that up for a week and see how things roll; it didn't work though. I was having shutdowns left and right on the first two days.
I tried to talk to my boss about it, and told her I couldn't take on this many students - she told me it was ok, but a couple hours later she showed up in my 10-minute break in between classes to ask me if I could take some more of the MC/DLE classes because 12h wasn't enough to fit all the students; I told her I couldn't do it since I still needed some time to dedicate to myself and my masters, but not 30min later she texts me "take a look at your schedule and tell me if it's all good". She had signed me anyway for more MC/DLE classes. I didn't have any fucking time to even go to therapy, to my psychiatrist or to do some exercises. Not to mention the struggle with the constant change. I immediately texted my therapist and told her about it, she was just as confused as I was. I was still trying to take on all the hours my boss wanted me to because I have a hard time saying no and was still scared I'd get fired. That all happened last week.
Fast-forward to this week - I had a psychiatrist appointment on the 8th, and I told him about this mess. He wrote a report on why I shouldn't be teaching those classes because of ASD for me to give my boss, but then again, I'm too scared of what might happen if I turn that report in. I still need this job as I need the money, and I'm uncertain on how I should approach my boss about this, or if I even should bring up ASD as another fear of mine is that they will brush it off as I go out of my way to mask my true self, to a point where other teachers working there thinking I'm "cartoon-y".
One last detail: the head of the department wants me to take as many masters' subjects as I can to start the experiments asap so I have no clue how I'll fit that in with the crazy schedule my boss gave me. I told my supervisor there that I may need more time off classes if I passed my masters, but she just said "well I don't even want to think about that" so yeah.
Ps.: They still don't know I passed my masters - the head of the department told me to wait until the official results were in to announce it to people that are not family/close friends. Also, despite what is currently happening, it's a very nice place to work at - the team is very welcoming and I have a fairly good relationship with my boss and supervisor; they really don't have a single clue what's going on behind the scenes on my end though. They might be understanding, but seeing the proportion of the current situation I'm guessing this is highly unlikely, and they could also think I was trying to hide the fact I'm not neurotypical when I really just got an official diagnosis later in life.
Any takes on how I should proceed?
Edit: Added spoilers on the huge text about my job to make it easier on people who see this! Thanks again @(you need an account to see links) for this, I feel so honored to have my achievement on the Announcements. ;o;
Last edited by Danny Phantom; 03-12-2021 at 06:38 PM.
I've moved this over to forum announcements, @(you need an account to see links). Your accomplishment deserves the highest of accolades! I hope that everyone else will join me in offering congratulations to you on such a momentous achievement!
Thank you so much, @(you need an account to see links) ! I honestly don't even know how to thank you guys for all the support, this journey has been quite insane and I don't think I could have kept my head high without the kind words, memes and positivity from this community. My classes will most likely start in April, I'll fill you all in with the details of all the crazy themes about research and bacteria I'll be learning, haha!
I'm so happy for you!!!! It sounds like an awesome masters program!!! I was about to go to bed but I'll think on that second part of your post tomorrow. Here's a celebration video to get the party starting in this thread:
Last edited by Erik.; 03-12-2021 at 06:21 PM.
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I'm sorry about the mess with your current job. I know the struggle of taking on too many classes/students, but I cannot begin to imagine the stress of having so many that are constantly changing. I'm not really sure the best way to go about approaching your boss about this, it doesn't really sound like she's listening to you.
Once again, congrats @(you need an account to see links) !!! ;A; I'm sure others can offer better advice than I could haha but I'm so happy for you passing.
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I just achieved one of my major life goals, so I'm quite excited! This leads me to another situation though: my current job.
Advice is very welcome though!
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