I've never blocked or deleted a family member from social media, but then again my family is very, very small and fortunately for me they're all rather reasonable.
The only oddball is my mum to be honest, but she isn't very vocal about her views - just makes 'statements' through her profile pictures here and there. After years of political and social discourse, I gave up on changing her opinions - who am I to dictate what is right and what is wrong for her? I just wish she would stop commenting on mine lol.
As for friends, yeah.... quite a few were purged from my list for speaking out on matters that go against my moral values or actively pushing their agenda on unsuspecting victims (i.e MLM schemes, vote for XYZ, share this shit 50 times, blah blah). I don't jump the gun that easily though, and usually follow my "three-shot" acquaintance rule, as I do on neopets(lol). What's this rule, you might wonder? Piss me off or hurt my loved ones once, I let it slide and chalk it up to a bad day. Do so twice and you get an extended snooze. Do so thrice and you're out of my life, ez. With exceptions of course: sexism, racism, animal cruelty and the like get the boot at lightning speeds. That applies to all extremes tbh, even friends who "share my outlook" on the world can be overbearing and downright cruel to those who disagree, and I can't tolerate that either.
I'm not all that active on social media anymore (lvl 9000 introvert here) but I, too, have been exiled from a few circles for edgy memes and dark humor, so there goes that. Oh well
I do facebook only (no twitter/instagram/tiktok/etc) and have all my family as friends except my father in law, because he seemed to post strange and cryptic comments on every photo and I grew tired of deleting them so I unfriended him. But my husband doesn't have his Dad as a Fb friend either, so I don't feel too bad about it at all!.
During the last couple of years, I started to visit facebook less and less. My family is mostly okay, and I don't mind what they are posting, it was always the other way around for me. I feel like no one in my family (close and extended) really knows me, and I never wanted to share any problems or 'negative' thoughts/experience with them, so my posting setting excluded them since forever.
But the reason I stopped logging into facebook is - it just makes me feel bad. So many bad stuff pops there, and I'm feeling bad reading them. Mostly things about how shitty the country I live in is. So now I only use facebook for uni stuff, but even that got rare since it seems like in general not many are still using it for that.
Now days I mostly use twitter. It's still a social media, sure, but it's a social media for my internet side, and not real life. And it has the things I like. I did had to unfollow like 2 people there, and it was a hard decision for me. One of them just brought too much real life shit into my timeline, and the other one was my ex. It was hard but I'm glad I did that.
My fathers family is all blocked everytime he "gets his life together" My fathers family expects me to open my arms to him.. once as a young girl they even forced me too see him which caused me to have a panic attack. Its sad because I cant even talk to my cousins. (KEEP in mind I've rarely seen him growing up or even around)
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Deleted fb a good while ago, thankfully, so avoiding family is super easy. They would 100% be blocked if it was still activated though. A close friend sometimes sends me screenshots of some of the things my dad posts and it makes me very very happy to live 9+ hours away from him. He gets super into the boomer humor/if its on fb it must be true political stuff and will argue with people over it. He's an exhausting person to deal with, as is his side of the family.
I don't have any social media right now but I used to have a FB account in the past. I did blocked my family because they were really boring with things that shared/posted
Over the years my Facebook feed has morphed from actual irl contacts to pretty much exclusively just content from hobbyist groups, weird memes from bizarre niche groups, and posts made by internet pals befriended in the bizarre niche groups. It always makes me laugh when I look at the pool of friends visible on my profile as my most recently added and it's all profiles with names like Sarah Zuccface because they keep having to make alts after getting suspended.
I have very little family myself and only my brother has ever joined, no concerns there. My dad is an ultra boomer (actually a member of the Silent Generation) who still uses a mid-2000s Motorola Razr and sends us emails like this instead of using social media
Over the years my Facebook feed has morphed from actual irl contacts to pretty much exclusively just content from hobbyist groups, weird memes from bizarre niche groups, and posts made by internet pals befriended in the bizarre niche groups. It always makes me laugh when I look at the pool of friends visible on my profile as my most recently added and it's all profiles with names like Sarah Zuccface because they keep having to make alts after getting suspended.
I have very little family myself and only my brother has ever joined, no concerns there. My dad is an ultra boomer (actually a member of the Silent Generation) who still uses a mid-2000s Motorola Razr and sends us emails like this instead of using social media
I just spent probably an hour digging through my emails to try and find them, but I have an almost lifelong friend whose dad used to send her similar emails when he was still out and about in the world working. (He's more retired/at home watching tv sort now.) They would be in all caps, just two lines about completely ordinary things, signed DAD.
Perhaps we should all just go back to sending each other 1-2 line e-mails and stop re-posting memes and crap on Facebook.
Has anybody's mind ever been changed on Facebook, really?
Yes
I am very quick to block/delete anyone with awful views (homophobia, transphobia, racist, etc). Lost my best friend of 10 years this way, didn't help that he would argue and call my other friends and family some very sexist terms on my posts on a regular basis.
Am a big fan of the 30 day snooze and unfollow features on facebook. Normally use the snooze when someone is being annoying about current events. Puts them in sort of a "time out" while not having to be confrontational.
Unfollowing is mostly saved for my family members that I love, just can't stand some of the stupid shit they post.
I don't add people I know in real life on social media excluding two people who I've been friends with since high school who married each other. And a cool old guy I met in the psych ward.
My family would have a heart attack if they saw my posts tbh.
tbf they know I post weird shit which is why they don't wanna add me. They just don't wanna see it, it's not a big secret or anything. They just want to see normie bible stuff and nothing I'm interested in posting or seeing.
Edit: I don't unfriend people for having different beliefs or their posts unless they're actively trying to convert me. (aka one of my best friends is a hardcore commie and I hate communism, will never be one. We leave our ideals aside and have a 6 year long happy friendship. He doesn't tell me to be a commie, and I don't tell him not to be one. Same goes for religious friends really.)
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