What do you want from 2020?

[Achyfi]

1. Cook more and eat more, I like being heavy. I'm built like a small short Asian woman (im 1/4 so prob genes) but I feel powerful and not so much a push over when I have a bit of weight backing me. + confidence

2. Treat myself more. Neopets is my only indulgence atm, the rest of my time/money is spent taking care of others.

3. Be more forgiving. To myself and others. I work from home and take care of my 14yo sister and newborn baby alone. I have no family here to lean on and they were toxic so its for the best. Its why my sister came to live with me. But im questioning if im even doing a good job. Although shes doing better than with them, shes still embracing that energy and runs towards trouble. I need to be more patient and understand change wont happen overnight (its been 6 months)

4. idk if this is contradicting but be more firm! Everyone is constantly running over me or pushing me to the edge because im too nice. I just wish I knew balance.

5. Meditate more often. Get out of my head. Read more. Give thanks more.


FOR THE WORLD:

1. Be good. Follow a simple rule - treat others how you want to be treated and let hate go. Hurtful people find their own way to pain, don't let them turn you into a creature of vengeance. Focus on you. If peace is what you practice, often peace will find you. Withstand the test.

2. Waste less. Be mindful of your footprint. Plant more.

Really related to this! Your #1: I'm half and I ended up the short one, my siblings are all like a foot taller than me lol. I'm trying to find a middle ground with weight... my siblings seem to always gain/lose it perfectly but with my height any changes are extremely apparent to me. That said I understand all bodies are good (and like, no matter what you look like, no matter what extremes, chances are there is at least someone out there in the world who's extremely into exactly that, or maybe even wants to be that). Or at least, that's how I try to look at it!

Being firm but forgiving is hard. Balance is hard. Being nice to yourself can be hard. I'm trying to improve these things, too! *hug*

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[5hego]

@(you need an account to see links) I'm the smallest in my family too! (that's completed growing anyways, my younger siblings obv have room to improve) I find eating. That's a GREAT mindset, I've also adopted that concept, though, my want for change is more to look intimidating "strength/fight' wise. Sometimes I want people to see me and think better not fuck with her. But probably they don't get those vibes because im so *sweet* which is where the balance thing comes in. Maybe i should just invest in a punching bag, i thought all that built up anger was meant to fizzle out when you become an adult. sigh so much for 'teenage' angst haha. TG im level headed for the most part, i need a better healthy outlet tho, cleaning just doesn't do the trick anymore. You already gave yourself the best advice so all i will say is: beauty is ALL in the mind. once you program your head to act like youre the shit your body automatically follows and 9/10 nothing 'physical' changes but its evident in your presence. All bodies rly are loveable.

I always like to think of change with that question by I forgot who but its like "whats worse? change or staying the same?" I think they both have their moments but in your case I think that's definitely a case of evolution. Evolve baby! Grow grow grow. I'm sure you guys can work out get together's every now and then? and atleast there is technology. although it is easier said than done. + congrats!! Good to see you're improving *BIG HUGS* idk if you drink wine but i'm metaphorically clinking you rn.

[Abraguldur]

Travelling ) but unfortunately due to the global situation it is improbable some time soon would be awesome to visit new continents! For example to go to Africa, to ex-Zanzibar (now it is Tanzania), the Motherland of Freddy Mercury, my favourite singer ever. I mean it would be great to have some absolutely new experience! As fas as I understood there are tons on options to experience (you need an account to see links).

[kittyray]

I take back whatever I said before on this thread, I just want all my loved ones to make it through okay.

[Chenbi]

Just... whoa. This year man, what will be the next disaster? D:

[Khloe]

I was actually hoping to get out more this year, had plans to travel outside where I live, etc but due to this virus, kind of makes me wonder how socialising will be like afterwards.

[mokavanila]

Cool thread, really made me think alittle, myown revolutions:
* Finaly finish my 4-year degree. It's my last year but I just can't seen the end of it. Corona really slowed my train down.
* Find a full-time job in my field of game designing. It's not easy to find a job when you have quarantine haha.
* Work on my personal projects, like a Cookbook by my grandma and anything else I'll be interested in creating.
* Not holding grudge, be more forgivable.
The world:
* Help the community more, be there for my friends, especially the ones that live farther from me.

I think that's it.

[raz]

I hope i can get a baby soon. Just recently married before all the lockdown and quarantined started happening. Really excited to be a father. To have a child of my own.

[katongpool]

Was honestly hoping to leave my job but given the pandemic... it would probably be a very foolish decision given the hiring freeze in almost every company that I'm interested in.

[namira123]

2019 was quite a shitty year for me, the only good thing about it was that I got finally married to my wonderful husband. I got burned out and did not work the whole year and felt super bad about it. Had lots of therapy to work through some stuff and finally am much better.
We are going to move to a new city soon and I want to search for a job, so lots of change is planned in 2020.

I really want to continue to invest lots of time into the relationships that really matter. I have many friends that proved themselves in hard times, that showed support instead of judgement and even if we don't live in the same city anymore, I'm really invested in keeping those relationships close.
I also want to get out of my comfort zone a bit and try some new things. A cooking class (when they get hosted again) and maybe try out some new sports class (I am very much a couch potato and haven't been to a fitness class in 7+ years). 2020 will be my year of change