It is kinda tough, esp. because he's family But he only comes around when he needs money or something, and I've been at my parents paying rent here for a few years to help them out with bills so they can keep thier home. So although he's my brother, I just don't really know him. I know my mum and dad, and love them dearly, so when there's something that causes them misfortune or worry, I feel very defensive.
I've just never met someone who let's themselves rot away like that...
Just so I don't sound like, completely heartless, my brother has no idea about these feelings. I treat him very kindly, like a guest when he comes over, I cook and clean and try to engage him in conversation via notepad (I don't know sign language, so there's a language barrier between us.) but he doesn't seem to want to be around anyone when he comes over. He sits down in the spare room on his computer all day/night, only comes up to eat, and to go to the store.
I've tried to get to know him in the past, but he is a very private person and doesn't really want to get to know anyone, unless they have a gift or food or money, then he talks for a little while.
My family doesn't even know how I feel about this, because I know my mum loves him very much. (We had dif. dads, my dad finds him annoying but doesn't make this known either, I'm good at reading him though. If he can read me as well as I can him, he might know how I feel about all this.) I'll never let him know how I really feel about it, because if he hasn't changed at this point, he most likely won't in the future. I don't want to be rude to him, or try the tough love method, because he's a grown ass man and I'm his half sister, not his mom.
Sometimes family is hard. I have aq very, very strange family. All I have are my mom and dad, really.
Would be nice to find someone and start a family someday, my parents want to be grandparents very badly.
Anyways, I'm sorry for rambling or derailing this thread, if something frustrating happens while he's here I'll def. pm you. *hug* Thanks for offering that for me.