I need a girlfriend :(

[noreti]

That's what I keep being told - online and from my Dad - get my G.E.D first, get a job, get my own place, but it's so hard to be alone in the meantime

The fact that it's that hard to be alone means you're not ready for a relationship, in my opinion. You need time to be happy with yourself first, before you can be in a relationship. Relationships don't fix people, or fill a void in your life. They aren't meant for that. Successful relationships share happiness that each person already has separately. Otherwise it just becomes codependent.

[Cath]

That's what I keep being told - online and from my Dad - get my G.E.D first, get a job, get my own place, but it's so hard to be alone in the meantime

It might definitely be hard, but trust me, you will thank yourself later. I honestly don't think it's very healthy to depend on somebody else to be happy. You should learn to enjoy spending time alone with yourself and find some hobbies. You said that you are interested in things like physics and astronomy, why not find forums where you can talk online about those subjects with other people or buy books to learn new things about those? This would surely keep your mind busy and help you feel better! I don't really encourage you to get into a new relationship "just because you feel lonely". This would be pretty unhealthy and unfair to the other person involved tbh... Learning to be more independant will definitely come in handy in the long run and hell, it might even boost your self-confidence and attract other people!

[Hubble]

The fact that it's that hard to be alone means you're not ready for a relationship, in my opinion. You need time to be happy with yourself first, before you can be in a relationship. Relationships don't fix people, or fill a void in your life. They aren't meant for that. Successful relationships share happiness that each person already has separately. Otherwise it just becomes codependent.

It might definitely be hard, but trust me, you will thank yourself later. I honestly don't think it's very healthy to depend on somebody else to be happy. You should learn to enjoy spending time alone with yourself and find some hobbies. You said that you are interested in things like physics and astronomy, why not find forums where you can talk online about those subjects with other people or buy books to learn new things about those? This would surely keep your mind busy and help you feel better! I don't really encourage you to get into a new relationship "just because you feel lonely". This would be pretty unhealthy and unfair to the other person involved tbh... Learning to be more independant will definitely come in handy in the long run and hell, it might even boost your self-confidence and attract other people!

You both make very good points and I do agree completely. I guess I will work on myself some more first before I try to get into another relationship, honestly now that I stop and think about it that was the reason my last one failed was because I was not happy with myself. I had insecurities and negative thoughts that just took over and ended up ruining the whole thing. I guess I can just have some NSA 'fun' in the meantime with girls haha

Thank you everyone for discussing this with me, I really appreciate it. Like I said previously, I have no-one but my Dad and his wife, and you guys, so it really means a lot that you would take the time out of your day and effort to write these posts and read them and whatnot

[Stocking Anarchy]

Pretty much what everyone else said is kind of what I went through. You'll know that you are ready for another relationship when you stop "needing" to be in a relationship.

The only person we can really depend on is our-self. We need to be the one that makes us happy, that makes us well, that defines us. We shouldn't look to others to do that for us, and we shouldn't also be in a relationship with someone that expects us to do that for them. Its just a recipe for heart ache and there will always feel like something is missing, or we'll always be wondering when the other shoe is going to drop.

[Ace Trainer]

Speaking from personal experience, it feels the worst the more recent the breakup is. I got so lonely I almost considered taking back my manipulative/self-centered/boundary-breaking/cheating ex because I missed all the stuff that came with being in a relationship.

Eventually it gets easier, took me a few months to get back into the dating game, then a few months more to realize everyone in my town sucks and I started online dating (OkCupid). That was a success xD

But until then, focus on other things, and sometimes it's ok to let yourself feel sad or upset. Listen to breakup songs or something to get it all out. And when you can, just try new things, and maybe you'll meet new people (Or try to find forums or clubs or whatever for things you already like)

[j03]

If I could I would've already man but nothing really interests me... at least that I can do anything with, that is. The only things I find interesting are things that I have no chance of getting involved with like astro-physics, general astronomy, engineering and general physics, but I don't even have a G.E.D so I can't go anywhere with any of those things.

Huh?

You don't need a piece of paper to do something you want to do in life. Cheer up man. The hardest part is the closest of time since you broke up. The more time that passes, the easier it gets.

I suggest giving yourself a chance and get to doing what you want to do. Who knows... A seed won't grow if you don't nourish it.

[Zachafer]

lmaooo