kittyray (05-25-2017)
I graduated HS in '08 /old
Most people I kinda kept in touch with are all married with kids, in a committed relationship...and here I am playing Neopets.
Personally, I know I wasn't ready at that age range to be married and being an adult. I was more worried about trying to figure out what to do with my life. Everyone "grows up" at a different rate. I think you should wait to figure out you life, but if that is what you want and feel you are ready to take on, more power to you.
kittyray (05-25-2017)
I ALMOST got married at 21 but the relationship ended just months before. Obviously it was for the best - Better before than after.
From personal experience and looking back on it 21 was far too young. I still had life to live and wasn't really ready to settle down.
I think a lot of it depends on the home life/environment too. I grew up near Chicago, nobody got married young. I however was 18 when I met my fiance. I'm 29 now (T__T) and we've been together for 10 years. I actually left Chicago 5 months after getting together with him. (I had a bad home life and put wayyyyyyyyyy more focus on getting out of a bad situation than my actual future.) However, I am still head over heeeeels for him and it was nice having that constant support after getting out of a rough situation.
I did notice when I moved to Wisconsin and even now after living in Missouri kids get married and have children WAYYYYYYYYYYYY earlier. Like I remember being 21 and almost all our friends in Wisconsin were married and pregnant or trying to be. All my friends back home didn't have that same mindset. I'm down for people following their hearts but man I am a lot more mature now than I was then. I think i'm really lucky to of found such a great guy and we made it through a shit ton...and we still aren't even married. (It's just way expensive and old family drama prevented it happening sooner than later). So I think there are a lot of contributing factors.
It's hard seeing people you know are headed down a road for divorce but just take from it what you can and be super appreciative that you have a better head on your shoulders than that chick who lost all her friends! XD
I married my high school boyfriend at 19, was unhappy at 20 and left him at 21. Wasn't for religious reasons or anything, it just felt like the logical next step after living together. In our situation, the crux was that he changed so much after school. I've always been very anti-drugs, due to growing up with drug addict parents, but he started experimenting with them. Didn't understand why it was a big deal to me.
It all works out for the best in the end. In retrospect, it's a bad idea because at that age you don't know who you will end up being. I've now been married to Blake for 2 years, and in our ~7 years we've never fought once.
I'm the kind of person that has certain goals I'd to accomplish before getting into a serious relationship with someone.
In my opinion, marrying someone at a young age wouldn't really be a good idea, it could limit your choices of where you'd like to live, work, where you'd like to travel and etc. I think there are so many things out there that you can see and explore (not talking about drugs or anything like that) but when you get married, you bring it with several different responsabilities.
I think the couple don't know much about life and how things work so a little bit of experience would be good.
But that's just me! I've seen couples marrying at 17/18 years old and are together until today but the vast majority divorces after 1.5 ~ 3 years.
I graduated high school in June 2008 and got married April 2009. My husband and I have been together since junior year and although we have had lots of ups and downs we've done pretty well. We just had our 8th wedding anniversary.
TBH I don't really have much of an opinion on marrying young. It works for some and not for others.
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athron (05-25-2017)
I would marry for the fun of it like in Vegas omg that would be so funny like marry a friend in a drive thru wedding but not like get married legit no I think it's time to party live life!!