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    Quote Originally Posted by Aura View Post
    I'm graduating next month from high school, and I think that, if anyone were to get married straight out of high school, I would usually regard it as odd. Teenagers and young adults even are still growing and constantly changing. It is not unusual for early wedders to break up because of that reason. In my opinion, I would wait a few years out of high school, at least. Marriage is a life-long commitment, and you definitely want to grow with your partner and truly discover if you two are meant to be, rather than face issues in the road. Issues of which high schoolers don't usually face, like paying mortgage/rent, getting a real job, starting a family, etc.
    One of my best friends has a boyfriend she has been with for like three years. They're madly in love and I do suspect that they'll get married shortly after high school, but even to them I'd suggest waiting. It's better to wait than to land yourself in a mess in the future.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Andymac106 View Post
    you trying to get hitched?
    what are you on about boy
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    Quote Originally Posted by catalyst View Post
    A lot of the people I know who got married while still in college were pretty religious and then know one couple who did it because`he was military.
    I graduated high school in '09 and so many of my classmates have gotten officially engaged the past year. It seems wild. I mean, my girlfriend and I are very serious about eventually getting married, but we probably won't get engaged for another few years. We both want to feel more settled with life. Also, we're open/poly, so there's less of the pressure of feeling like you're committed to solely one person for the rest of your life.
    Omg, how long were you and your boyfriend together before becoming poly? I couldn't imagine that type of relationship.. I'm so curious how it could work out!

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    Marriage is a deeply-flawed system, (you need an account to see links) I'm not surprised young men don't want to get married as it's been utterly ruined from a legal standpoint. There's no benefit for them at all.

    That being said... (you need an account to see links), which means people who come here from other nations are vastly out-breeding native Americans. I want to live in the United States, not Mexico or India or Russia, which means I greatly advocate more young American marriages if they are financially stable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ckatg View Post
    I think you are disregarding different personality types. Sure, some people might need to be alone and free to feel like they are "experiencing life".. But many people are perfectly happy experiencing life with their best friend beside them.

    I've been with my boyfriend since I was 20, and I am now 24. I feel like I am having a perfectly fine time "experiencing life", regardless of the fact that I am basically married to my best friend.

    I'm excited to get married and have kids. Shame on me, right? (not implying it is coming soon, just something I am looking forward to)
    I didn't mean it in that regards - I think it's great that you have someone to experience life with.

    It's more so I know a bunch of people who have had kids or been married in their late teens/early twenties who regret not waiting. In my early twenties I had some great opportunities that I would not have had if I had been in a long term relationship with a lot commitments.

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    It's personally not my life, so whatever people do, they do. Personally, I'd wait a while for marriage, maybe stay engaged for a year or two. I also take marriage benefits into factor. However, I don't think same-sex marriage has the same benefits other marriages do, last time I checked.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aura View Post
    what are you on about boy
    is that a hard no or...????
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    Quote Originally Posted by ckatg View Post
    Omg, how long were you and your boyfriend together before becoming poly? I couldn't imagine that type of relationship.. I'm so curious how it could work out!
    We were poly from the get-go. We started out as friends, then very good friends, et cetera. During that time she started seeing somebody who was poly, so when we started to really fall for each other we were poly by default. It's definitely not for everybody who knows how I'll feel ten, twenty years down the line, but for now (and for the forseeable future) it works. Also, it's probably worth noting we're currently long distance. Also, also, girlfriend*.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Android View Post
    It's personally not my life, so whatever people do, they do. Personally, I'd wait a while for marriage, maybe stay engaged for a year or two. I also take marriage benefits into factor. However, I don't think same-sex marriage has the same benefits other marriages do, last time I checked.
    What would those benefits be?



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    Quote Originally Posted by catalyst View Post
    We were poly from the get-go. We started out as friends, then very good friends, et cetera. During that time she started seeing somebody who was poly, so when we started to really fall for each other we were poly by default. It's definitely not for everybody who knows how I'll feel ten, twenty years down the line, but for now (and for the forseeable future) it works. Also, it's probably worth noting we're currently long distance. Also, also, girlfriend*.[COLOR="Silver"]
    Ah, my apologies. I don't know how I didn't read girlfriend the first time. XD

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    Quote Originally Posted by ckatg View Post
    Ah, my apologies. I don't know how I didn't read girlfriend the first time. XD
    No worries, things like that happen!



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