How do you feel about people getting married young?

[Lizerd]

IMPORTANT: I totally DO NOT MEAN child marriages. Everyone here is 18 at this point. I'm talking about like 18-21.

How do you guys feel about young marriages, like literally out of high school or in college? I know some people don't feel that it'll last but others think high school sweethearts will stay together forever. Some young couples do it for the government benefits of being a poor college couple, and some are just impulsive and don't know what they want. I want to know everyone else's opinion and maybe some stories and share a story I'm currently WTFing at right now.

Even though I completely detached myself from my high school my senior year, I still used Facebook to keep up to date on people I know and general high school drama. Graduation was officially May 23rd, and now we are officially high schol graduates. Since then, two couples have gotten engaged, and one got married (tiny wedding before he ships off in the navy or something).
I'm just like ????????
I've known these people since elementary school pretty much, and one of them basically my whole life. Navy couple girl is totally impulsive, and goes after everything that isn't hers. She spent much of her high school career scooping up ex boyfriends of her friends and then wondering why she lost a friend - her husband is one of those conquests. I'm pretty sure that marriage is doomed for divorce - but who knows, they're both terrible people, they might be perfect.
The other couple I kinda understand, as he's from a Muslim family (though they aren't super religious and controlling) and she has a lot of family issues. They're both great people, and were my best friends at points, but for reasons we just kinda stopped talking. I think they'll actually stay together, they're fantastic for each other and I support them wholeheartedly.

It just feels surreal to me that these people are getting married and we literally just graduated high school. They haven't even been together that long, and it kinda makes me feel weird, too. I've been with my boyfriend for 3+ yrs, and we live together now, but aren't married, and these people that have been together less than a year are marrying off and being adults.
{I know I've been in college the past year but please don't make me adult yet I'm not ready D:}

[Andymac106]

So I personally graduated high school a little over a year ago. There was a couple who I graduated with who married directly out of the gate. From a financial standpoint, I have no idea how they're doing - neither of them went to college. But from an emotional standpoint, it looks as though they're both doing completely amazing. They seem so happy, in pictures and in person.

In my opinion, marriage is a very sacred thing, bond between two people who love each other dearly. Now, if two people are very happy together and can see themselves being together until the end of time, I believe it is their choice to make. Who am I to impose my opinion on their happiness? That being said, I'm 19. I'm not ready for marriage. I've got my whole single life ahead of me. Now, could they have been ready? Certainly. Will they last? Who knows. But its their choice, and if someone wants to marry young because they're so deeply infatuated with someone, by all means, go for it. The heart wants what the heart wants - I just hope they've made their decision with their hearts and brains, without any influence of the wrong head thinking

[Pusheen]

It's weird.

I made a thread a year ago or something here, asking if it was normal to get married that young in the USA.
In Chile at least, is very unheard of and the cases in which 18-21 y/o people get married now a days are almost non existent. Even at 25-27 is not common. I'm almost 24 and if you ask me, nobody around me (close friends or just known people) are even thinking about marriage, and if you ask, most people would tell you they want that for their late 20's or early 30's.

But I see it being so common in some places of the USA... and finding divorced people at 24 is not weird there.

[Andymac106]

It's weird.

I made a thread a year ago or something here, asking if it was normal to get married that young in the USA.
In Chile at least, is very unheard of and the cases in which 18-21 y/o people get married now a days are almost non existent. Even at 25-27 is not common. I'm almost 24 and if you ask me, nobody around me (close friends or just known people) are even thinking about marriage, and if you ask, most people would tell you they want that for their late 20's or early 30's.

But I see it being so common in some places of the USA... and finding divorced people at 24 is not weird there.

I live in the US and I had a 22 year old in one of my college classes who had been divorced twice already...So you're not wrong at all about that point

[Bruh]

I live in Chile too!

I think we as chileans don't get married so young, for social and economic reasons

Most of the people I know that are 18-30 (sometimes even up to 45) Aren't married but are in a relationship
And most people I know of said ages find marriage to be very unnecessary

Also I guess it's hard in chile to have a married relationship as you are expected to move with your partner and most of the people I know don't have the $$$ to do so :/

Edit:

Another thing, I think it depends on the reasons of the marriage and the personality of the person.
Also, I think they tend to fail if they get together with a classmate after the school ends. I've seen this happen A LOT where I live. I see that their relationships don't work because the only thing that made them be together and "love" each other was the school so after it ends they end up developing new interests and meeting new people.
Most of the failed relationships I've seen are of people that met and after a month they started their relationships and that it turn out they didn't like how the partner behaved and different things that could have been solved if their personalities were more flexible

This is not always the case tho, for example My BF and I met and a month after we met we started a relationship that has been going on for 4 years
We want to get married but there's no $$$ and the cities we live on are expensive

[ohfyk1]

Need to try more flavours before you get married, or you will always be curious and end up trying them out either while your married or when you get divorced a few years later. IMO

[Oblivious]

Your twenties are the most important time of you life in my opinion, if you get married and settle down before having really experienced life then, I really feel sorry for you.

[kat.]

Your twenties are the most important time of you life in my opinion, if you get married and settle down before having really experienced life then, I really feel sorry for you.

I think you are disregarding different personality types. Sure, some people might need to be alone and free to feel like they are "experiencing life".. But many people are perfectly happy experiencing life with their best friend beside them.

I've been with my boyfriend since I was 20, and I am now 24. I feel like I am having a perfectly fine time "experiencing life", regardless of the fact that I am basically married to my best friend.

I'm excited to get married and have kids. Shame on me, right? (not implying it is coming soon, just something I am looking forward to)

[Oblivious]

I think you are disregarding different personality types. Sure, some people might need to be alone and free to feel like they are "experiencing life".. But many people are perfectly happy experiencing life with their best friend beside them.

I've been with my boyfriend since I was 20, and I am now 24. I feel like I am having a perfectly fine time "experiencing life", regardless of the fact that I am basically married to my best friend.

I'm excited to get married and have kids. Shame on me, right? (not implying it is coming soon, just something I am looking forward to)

I didn't mean it in that regards - I think it's great that you have someone to experience life with.

It's more so I know a bunch of people who have had kids or been married in their late teens/early twenties who regret not waiting. In my early twenties I had some great opportunities that I would not have had if I had been in a long term relationship with a lot commitments.

[unknowable]

Marrying young is weird. That's one of the reasons why I dumped my 40 year old boyfriend. Because he wanted to get married NAO and I was only 20 at the time. Oh, and he'd feel me up in broad daylight in his SUV..