Should guys pay when on dates?

[Felice]

split is best imo.

[_Izual]

It's definitely seen as the "norm" for the guy to pay though. I had lunch with a male friend a few days ago and the waitress put the bill right in front of him even though I was taking care of it (I was the one who "asked him out"). Idk it kinda got on my nerves because it feels a little bit... infantilizing to me. I'm an adult and I can pay for my own food

Yeah, I don't like it when waiters/waitresses put the bill directly in front of one person, as if they are assuming that person is the one paying. They should just leave it at the head of the table. :/

[Xiloscient]

Well I'm gay, and currently, the person I'm "dating", we're in kind of a poly relationship.

We just.... buy each other dinner/snacks and know the other will do it in return the next time or something. It's not really an issue for us two. But the other partner is a bit stingy, and doesn't like to do his share.

[bluevitriol]

Never been to a date, so I don't know yet XD

[Polux]

Only if he want to but Is not ok to expect that every time.

[Lazuli]

if he wants to, yea. traditionally men are "supposed" to pay but like.. it's not the 1800s anymore so lol
i dont believe in going dutch though, not on dates anyway. but i guess it also depends on the circumstance too like, if person A asked person B to go out, then it's person A's "responsibility" if you will, since it was their idea. and vice versa. gender roles suck �\_(ツ)_/�

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also @ all the lesbians here plz hmu

[Bani]

splitting is best imo
but if the other wants to spoil you, then let them
and if you want to spoil them, then do it
just don't make one person pay all the time
i prefer to do the 50/50 split or somewhere around there, depending on the income as well.

[Aura]

I think splitting is best for first dates/etc., but then it COULD be the responsibility of the person who asked once the relationship actually develops. They could take turns treating each other.
Splitting is still fine, if that's how they'd prefer. But I don't think dudes should feel obligated to pay.

[lime]

I think perhaps the first date I would prefer the guy to pay, but subsequently, it would be better the split especially if he's a student or not working.

[Aska]

Splitting is fine with me. I work so I can buy my own things.