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    Should guys pay when on dates?

    I'm old fashion and will always pay though my bro is the opposite and says he never pays and thinks i'm a sucker!!

    I sorter feel it's almost like i have to in the moment. Thoughts?


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    Traditional mores say that men should pay while on a date.
    I'm all for paying. If I'm into you, then I'm going to flatter you, whether it's when going on a date, picking up Taco Bell on the way over, or just picking her up a toy or some cute shit for her. Gonna flatter her.

    Regardless, I don't think guys should be obligated to pay. But I myself will always pay.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mophead View Post
    Traditional mores say that men should pay while on a date.
    I'm all for paying. If I'm into you, then I'm going to flatter you, whether it's when going on a date, picking up Taco Bell on the way over, or just picking her up a toy or some cute shit for her. Gonna flatter her.

    Regardless, I don't think guys should be obligated to pay. But I myself will always pay.
    I agree with this!

    Although I personally find it uncomfortable when someone offers to pay for me. I don't want to feel as if I owe anyone. I'd rather pay for myself, but I don't mind getting treated way later on in the relationship.

    I think it's just best to assume the "if you ask 'em out you pay" rule unless you actually have a discussion about what the two/group prefers.

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    In my mind, the person who asked the other should at least offer to pay. They initiated the date, so they should be willing to be responsible for it. Otherwise, it should be each party paying for themselves. I don't think a guy should feel obligated to pay for a date just because he's male.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bacchus View Post
    In my mind, the person who asked the other should at least offer to pay. They initiated the date, so they should be willing to be responsible for it. Otherwise, it should be each party paying for themselves. I don't think a guy should feel obligated to pay for a date just because he's male.
    I agree with this 100%.

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    bacchus nailed it - if you initiate the date it would probably be polite to pay, esp if it's to somewhere expensive.

    but otherwise i think it's better to pay separately so that nobody feels like they owe or are owed anything!

    (although honestly i love to spoil and be spoiled, so if you offer to pay i'm never gonna say no unless i feel like you've been taking the brunt of paying for dates)





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    Take turns, or whoever insisted on going out pay ~ or just pay for yourself like my bf and I do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Espeon View Post
    Take turns, or whoever insisted on going out pay ~ or just pay for yourself like my bf and I do.
    yeah no, honestly it would make no sense to take turns. just pay for yourself instead. I honestly don't see the point of everyone being offered money from everyone else then having to argue with everyone that they should keep the money, although this is in my culture. I just don't agree with it. So it's a bit like that. It's fair enough that the one who initiates the date should pay but if the other person insists on paying, just allow it. Otherwise it makes things awkward. It definitely shouldn't be the male paying just because he's male. The initiator of the date should offer to pay, if the other insists on paying, they just pay themselves. End of story. LOL

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