Honestly, I think that if this even becomes a thought between two people, that it is a big red flag. If someone wants to offer to pay, awesome, just do it--not exactly something to think twice about. I usually pick up the tab whenever I go anywhere with anyone (except hubby xD), but that is just how I am, and it is nice to be able to treat my friends and family. On a date, if "who is gonna pay" crosses the mind at all, just end it lol I've always hated how this question is a "thing." While I understand the roots of the notion (a nod to women being helpless, lawl), my issue isn't even the "sexism," just how illogical it is, and an unnecessary social construct.