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    Quote Originally Posted by Foxglove View Post
    I think at first it's courteous for the guy to offer if he's the one who initiated the date, but after awhile it just makes sense (to me) for each person to pay for him/herself. I don't believe entering a relationship/courtship should entail becoming financially responsible for another person, but that's just my opinion
    my partner and i rotate who pays for meals that we eat together. i pay for one, he pays for the other and so on. birthdays and pizza are the only exceptions to that. i think, in general, it really depends on the situation and person. if i knew someone before going to eat with them or on a date, i wouldn't mind paying, but someone i was not familiar with i might want them to pay for me because i'm cheap at hell. 0:^)

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    Yes, he should pay or at least offer to pay for it. If she don't want you to pay for her, split the bills. You can offer to pay for the first date then she pay for the second.

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    it's the gentlemanly thing to do

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    Quote Originally Posted by quaZitti View Post
    It originated from a time when it was necessary because women couldn't have bank accounts or own assets lmao. Same thing with putting women on a pedestal; it was unrelated to wooing a woman, you put a woman on a pedestal because she was literally property.
    I like the sentiment behind |2eap's response (very sweet), but I have to agree with you here Nice insight!

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    I'm always offering to chip in, but mostly he refuses that. I think he should definitely pay the first couple of dates!

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    I think whoever initiated the date should pay.

    Did the man ask the woman? He pays.

    Did the woman ask the man? She pays.

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    Not sure if this video has been posted here or not but I like the way this guy puts it:


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    Quote Originally Posted by TheButt View Post
    Not sure if this video has been posted here or not but I like the way this guy puts it:
    He does make some pretty good points. I like being able to look at things from different perspectives and this guy definitely answers that question from a different perspective. Definitely interesting.

    EDIT: It was actually posted on the first page - I just hadn't seen it before
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    Quote Originally Posted by I_royalty_I View Post
    He does make some pretty good points. I like being able to look at things from different perspectives and this guy definitely answers that question from a different perspective. Definitely interesting.

    EDIT: It was actually posted on the first page - I just hadn't seen it before
    Oops, I missed it too lol >.< but I agree with looking at things from different perspectives. It helps either solidify your argument/opinion or gets you to see the flaws in your argument/opinion. My wife hates when I do that though lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheButt View Post
    Oops, I missed it too lol >.< but I agree with looking at things from different perspectives. It helps either solidify your argument/opinion or gets you to see the flaws in your argument/opinion. My wife hates when I do that though lol.
    I used to be really set in my ways, seeing things one way and sort of keeping the blinders on. I realized I was doing that though and have sinced tried to see things from different perspectives and it's definitely interesting.


    Case & point - that video - "the moment you do that, you are saying that my time is more valuable than yours". That's an interesting way of looking at things and I'm sure once put that way, the lady who originally asked the question in that video felt rather silly haha
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