Well, a lot may be due to your age, which I have no idea how old you are, so the basis for the girls you may be going after will be difficult. However with that said, I dislike the idea of a 'friend-zone' there is no friend-zone, girls have not put you in the friend-zone that implies that the only reason why you're around them is for the possibility to sleep with them which is very degrading. It also puts the onus on the girl.. "If only she'd realize that everything she wants is me!".. Course that makes her feelings towards you invalid and yours are not, which of course, you want her to touch your fun parts but because you've been 'friend-zoned' she's a bitch that doesn't want you. Which is just disrespectful all around.
I see so many people on my facebook post "I dislike being single, but I am after some god of a person and my gosh.. I won't settle for anything less, why doesn't someone want me". So you have to determine what are you after? Sex? Sex is easy to get, anyone can get laid, it just depends on your standards. A relationship however is different, and in that respect going after women that are looking for the same thing you are is the key.
Additionally, self-respect and confidence is amazing. It's difficult to love someone if you don't first love yourself, I realise that sounds like a copout, but it's true. How can you expect someone to love you, if you don't first love yourself? How are you going to connect to someone else, if you're not connected to who you really are. (Here is a reddit that helps to explain that point as I understand it really does sound cliche - (you need an account to see links) ) Don't focus so much on finding love, instead focus on yourself, enjoying yourself, love tends to find us when we least expect it.
A personal story, it's very difficult to be with someone who puts their entire emotional well-being on you. I was with a guy for a very long time, who if I said something negative around him would mope all day and it was very hard to know that if I left, he may harm himself, in the end it was dangerous for me to remain with him and I had to make that choice. Don't be that person.
With all of that said, I personally, dislike men who are disrespectful but I love strong, confident men (Not arrogant though, which is very annoying for me). I love men that are interesting, and I tend to seek out the quiet ones because I find they have the most to say.
Course, with all of this, I am 32, so I am probably out of the demographic for advice.