You'll find that there are a lot of girls out there who do like nice guys. Perhaps your approach is wrong? Are you sure the girls you're trying to date know you're interested in being more than just friends? You may have to put yourself out there more...Try getting her some chocolates and ask her to meet you for dinner later in the week.
♥ Pam ♥ (08-30-2014),Sakuras (08-30-2014),♥ Wooloo ♥ (08-30-2014)
There's a lot of nice people in the world. You have to offer something else.
If some girl expected you to go out with her just cause she was kinda nice, you wouldn't, right? She'd have to have something else? Come oooooon man, there's like 3000000000000 sorta nice people in the world. You gotta offer something of value, not just be a semi-decent human being.
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It's probably your attitude that's not getting you girls. The way you're making it sound is that if you put in enough 'nice' coins, a relationship or sex will pop out. That's not how it works. Treat girls like humans who are capable of having complex feelings, not falling at the feet of anyone who will talk shit around them. I see a lack of respect in the way you talk about 'other girls', that's probably your first problem.
I've been married now for coming up on 5 years. I can tell you now, I was really a mix of what you're putting up here. I was a very nice guy but I was also not afraid to run my mouth if the situation needed it. One thing you need to learn is patience. Not every girl wants a bad guy, and not every girl wants you to be super sweet either. You need to continue being who you are and you'll find a person who is interested in you for you. Until then, don't give up hope
The problem with "nice guys" is that the vast majority of nice guys are nice until the girl/boy/whoever they're perusing refuses them for sex or a relationship, after which the nice guy flips and basically reveals their true colours as a gigantic douche canoe. Being a "nice guy" now has very negative connotations because nice guys, and nice girls as well, can easily just be assholes pretending to be nice.
There are a lot of men in the world who think just because they're "nice" to a girl/boy, that person SHOULD go out with them and SHOULD be in a relationship and SHOULD have sex with them, etc. and this stereotype has become very, very wide spread in recent years.
There's a fuller explanation here: (you need an account to see links)
Basically, stop expecting "being nice" to get you a girlfriend/partner. If you're nice to someone, you're nice to them, they do not owe you anything, and it's douchey to expect them to. If the people you peruse like someone else, that's just the way the cookie crumbles, whether they're nice, an asshole, rough, or sweet, it's their choice.
As a dude, I can honestly see why so many women and gay/bisexual dudes are so suspicious of "nice guys".
Sakuras (09-01-2014)
Some studies show that younger girls are more attracted to "hardcore/shitty guys", because they just want intense relationships, but when they get older (20+ years old) and they want a "real" boyfriend, they'll prefer nice guys. So I don't know how old are you, but the older you'll get, the more you'll attract girls(but as the others have already mentioned, your personality is a whole, so try to develop and show other qualities too
1 more thing:
srry
This just gives me the aura of this:Originally Posted by leetnerd
1. Remove fedora
2. gain confidence (being confident =/= being an asshole)
3. There is no friend zone.
Good luck.
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