Originally Posted by
Raj
I had the biggest issue with this about 2 years ago. I was extremely unconfident in anything I could do, because I didn't think I could do anything special. Then, starting in 9th grade, I just changed my mindset. Instead of, "why can't I do anything?" it was "let me go make something happen on my own". I stopped waiting for opportunities to prove myself and created them myself. Another way that helped was improving my self image. I weighed close to 220 lb (100kg) in 8th grade and i was only 5ft8. I was extreeeemely unhealthy. Over the summer going into 9th grade, I decided I didn't want to live out my life like this. I know so many people who have wasted away, fat for life. I didn't want to join that crowd. Again, I created an opportunity for myself. Since then, I've dropped a lot of weight and gained muscle. Just that alone improves my confidence. I know that I am no longer a fat little child, I know that I had the resolve to make a difference with my body, and I know nothing can stop me if I put my mind to it. Before that, none of those thoughts existed. Me, choosing to make an opportunity in my life for the better, boosted my confidence because I have a peace of mind I didn't have before. Please, please don't take it the wrong way, I'm not saying you have to lose weight, but for me, it helped me gain confidence. Another thing which helped my self confidence was making friends. Obviously, school is the best place to do so. Even if you're shy about yourself, just say hi to a new person, strike up a conversation, and maybe get their number too. Just succeeding in this alone will make you feel better about yourself. Easier said then done, of course, but it's the little baby steps that count. Just a "hi" or "hello" can go a long way. I know you mentioned your conversation problems, don't worry about it, haha. Just let it flow, don't think too much (don't think too little either, LOL that's how enemies are made). All it takes is just creating a few opportunities for yourself. That's the key to the treasure.