Why are nice people -hated- in your opinion ?

[cibomatto]

You know. there is always that nice but shy/awkward girl/boy in the class.

They are always left aside for some reason. Well I am one ! People usually come to me and ask me for cigarettes or some other kind of favors. :c

I was never popular.
I'm not ugly. I'm not fat. I love nice vintage clothes. but people can TELL I am awkward. oh but I'm asian :I
(and I seriously love fart jokes xD)
I always had a small group of friends. But the group fell apart when my friends got kicked out (hard school) or quit (because of the pressure) I'm left alone with my girl, but we are both introverts which makes it harder to socialize.

My new school / class feels like hell. Everyone is bitching on each other, many of the girls are two faced. guys are cooler, nicer. But it's too much testosterone for me.

(i'm in uni by the way xD! sorry for the bad english)


I feel down lately, and I had to talk about this to someone...
neopetting is a sad way to deal with loneliness :c! i want to go out and do crazy things again.

[Foxglove]

I don't think the nice sort of people you're talking about are hated, just misunderstood! I find that if someone doesn't feel like they can immediately relate to you, then it'll take more effort to make friends with that person. If you're introverted or socially awkward then most likely people are misreading your cues and think you don't want to associate with them -- when really you don't know how to initiate or prolong a conversation and need them to take the lead... or maybe they just don't "get" you
Making friends takes time and luck, I think -- it's got to be under the right circumstances. And for me at least, I tend to befriend people after we've talked and run into each other multiple times. One of my best friends came on strong the first time we met (kind of just followed us around, essentially forcing herself into the group) so for the first month or so of our friendship, my group and I were kind of weirded out

[DarkByte]

Being quite is not a crime , the worst thing u can say to someone like that is "god you dont talk much do you"? Pisses me right off , usually you get something like this from me in reply:

I only speak when I have something relevant to add the conversation , sadly you don't have the same filters.

[scogland]

I PROMSE you people do not hate nice people.
When people are quiet, it is usually assumed that they don't want to talk and a lot of the time people don't talk to quiet people simply because they think it'd annoy them.

- Stay away from people who will cause stress
- Make conversation with people who seem interesting
- Smile A LOT
- Pay attention to body language (don't cross arms/legs, stand up straight, etc.)
- Confidence is one of the best qualities a person can have. If you aren't confident, fake it till' you make it.
- Act approachable
- Always be kind

[Rissa]

I can relate to that.
Through Middleschool and Highschool, I went through that socially awkward stage.
Feeling like every time I attempted to even join a conversation I just said something completely off the wall and weird.
So eventually I just stopped talking which makes you look even more weird.
But at the end of it all, I found friends who were like me or at least accepted me. And that's what got me through it.
So if I were you I'd maybe join some clubs you're interested in or maybe invite the other girl out some time. She may be feeling just like you and just can't open up right away.

@(you need an account to see links) has some good points.
I had found out by a few people that I had always seemed mad or stuck up, thus creating another weird persona. So maybe you're portraying something you're not aware of?

[Owl]

People always think I'm stuck up or mean, when honestly I just am not sure how to interact (even online!). It takes me a long time to be "myself" around others, and when I finally do they can't get me to shut up.
It's just the way people perceive you; they interpret quiet as "leave me alone". Try turning conversations around on them- that is, make them talk about themselves. Eventually you'll find some common ground to speak on!
Relax, keep being kind, it'll pay off in the end.

[scogland]

People always think I'm stuck up or mean, when honestly I just am not sure how to interact (even online!). It takes me a long time to be "myself" around others, and when I finally do they can't get me to shut up.
It's just the way people perceive you; they interpret quiet as "leave me alone". Try turning conversations around on them- that is, make them talk about themselves. Eventually you'll find some common ground to speak on!
Relax, keep being kind, it'll pay off in the end.

I can relate to the taking a long time to be myself. Until two years ago, I used to be exactly like that. Somehow I got some very social friends and became like them, now I have no social issues whatsoever. You just gotta take the dive and start talking to people. The more you start talking to people, the easier you'll find it becomes. All it takes is a little time.

[cibomatto]

i'm even shy online T---T !
i usually don't know what to say, hence -right now- but i read everyone and i'm really happy you guys read me and took the time to reply..

I think I might have a stad off-ish appearance (to think of it now) but that is mostly because i feel aggressed being around them. (they put their own music super loud, they have their -lounge- space right next to my workspace and i usually find trash, cigarette buds on my table..) I cannot avoid them since we are all working in the same workspace/atelier (I'm at a fine arts school)

when you go to an art school, they key to survive is to be narcissitic and have lots of ego I think xD

and i'm the opposite :c

[scogland]

i'm even shy online T---T !
i usually don't know what to say, hence -right now- but i read everyone and i'm really happy you guys read me and took the time to reply..

I think I might have a stad off-ish appearance (to think of it now) but that is mostly because i feel aggressed being around them. (they put their own music super loud, they have their -lounge- space right next to my workspace and i usually find trash, cigarette buds on my table..) I cannot avoid them since we are all working in the same workspace/atelier (I'm at a fine arts school)

when you go to an art school, they key to survive is to be narcissitic and have lots of ego I think xD

and i'm the opposite :c

To be honest, I'd be much happier around somebody like you than any of the people you are describing. It's too bad obnoxious people are usually outgoing and end up being the ones with friends. I'm not gonna lie, there are times where I'm not doing anything so I think of things to say to people ahead of time.
Talk about super relatable things such as:
- Popular TV Shows (The Walking Dead, Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Family Guy, etc.)
- How terrible things everyone hates are (Homework, Cafeteria food, etc.)
- Upcoming movies that are highly-anticipated (22 Jump Street, The hunger games, Neighbors, etc.)
Things such as these are usually safe topics and can make successful conversation just about anywhere. You may need to make slight changes to these topics to fit the thoughts and likes of the people around you, however. Talk to yourself in a mirror and just keep rambling on, trying to make conversation. Practice this with the smallest pauses as possible in between talking. It's crazy, but it works. Hope I'm helping! And also if it makes you feel better, you have a relationship unlike a huge percentage of college students so congrats!

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Also I TOTALLY messed up and wrote that directed towards the wrong gender at first so I'm super sorry about that XD

[Swablu]

I completely get you. I'm a HUGE introvert. And on top of that I'm extremely awkward.
It wasn't until college that I started to somewhat break out of my shell.
A girl, who I'm now really close with, saw me sitting alone outside of a building and started talking to me out of no where, and we ended up becoming friends. Turns out she and I were in the same major and had all of the same classes together. Turns out she is extremely extroverted, but if it wasn't for her I wouldn't have met some of my closest friends at school.

Sometimes it just takes someone randomly reaching out to you for you to be able to break out of your shell. And then people won't view you as that awkward quiet type anymore.