Alright, my turn to ask for some advice.

[Jules]

Oh I didn't even think about that. Awkward. There's people I know who are married but not living together and they're just dating other people. Have been for months now. I'm like wtf, do you guys not know what it means to get divorced? Bleh. Everyone's different I guess.

I know, it's been like an ongoing thing for over a year; my dad will come back after a while, leave after a bad fight, and then date someone for a few months, and when they break up he comes back again. My mom just lets it happen because she would never consider divorce, but I personally wish they would just get divorced so I wouldn't have to see my dad

[Mojo]

If I were you, I'd go because it is his day. But I would make sure to tell him after the fact, maybe not tomorrow, that you wished you could have been more a part of the plan making process because you're his daughter, too. That is such a tough situation, and while I've never had to go through a parent remarrying or having step/half brothers/sisters myself, I can imagine how hard is must be for you to feel like the third wheel to your own dad. I'm sorry.

[Sylveon]

I know, it's been like an ongoing thing for over a year; my dad will come back after a while, leave after a bad fight, and then date someone for a few months, and when they break up he comes back again. My mom just lets it happen because she would never consider divorce, but I personally wish they would just get divorced so I wouldn't have to see my dad

My father & stepmother were so ignorant when they first started their "relationship". Leaving flowers and cards/love notes for her to find in HER house. I'm glad she had the nerve to leave. Hopefully your mom will find her nerve some day. It might just take time.

Of course she got almost nothing out of him because he threatened to take me and I was more important than money.

[jena]

I think you should definitely try to go.

If you absolutely see yourself being completely uncomfortable, try to come up with an alternate.

If your half-sister is taking him to lunch/breakfast, maybe you can take him to dinner. Or maybe vice-versa.

[Sylveon]

If I were you, I'd go because it is his day. But I would make sure to tell him after the fact, maybe not tomorrow, that you wished you could have been more a part of the plan making process because you're his daughter, too. That is such a tough situation, and while I've never had to go through a parent remarrying or having step/half brothers/sisters myself, I can imagine how hard is must be for you to feel like the third wheel to your own dad. I'm sorry.

It is his day and I really do want it to be nice for him. He's just so hard to talk to, it almost makes me wonder how much it's worth, trying to get this across to him.

I'm going to give it a shot though. Thank you!

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I think you should definitely try to go.

If you absolutely see yourself being completely uncomfortable, try to come up with an alternate.

If your half-sister is taking him to lunch/breakfast, maybe you can take him to dinner. Or maybe vice-versa.

This was something I'd thought about too. Maybe even allowing them to have their day, since that's pretty much what it is, and then have our day together. It's not that I wouldn't want to see him on Father's Day, but if it gets ruined by petty comments or something of that sort....idk, I'd just feel awful.

[Jules]

My father & stepmother were so ignorant when they first started their "relationship". Leaving flowers and cards/love notes for her to find in HER house. I'm glad she had the nerve to leave. Hopefully your mom will find her nerve some day. It might just take time.

Of course she got almost nothing out of him because he threatened to take me and I was more important than money.

I hope my mom gets the nerve. It's frustrating, before they started to fight my dad was nice to my mom and my brother and not me, literally I'm like the hated child in the family but I honestly don't care that much.