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[Mojo]

Have you ever had a crush on someone when you're already in a relationship?

If you haven't, just know that it's an awful feeling.

I'm not talking about just like... Looking at someone like "oh youre hot oh wait i have a boyfriend" nope. This is someone from online that I've been talking to recently that I just can't get out of my head. ;~;

And like... Dylan would be so jealous/upset that I even HAVE an online guy friend that I don't know what to say to him.
He's very set on "forever" with me. But I just graduated high school. And while the thought of spending forever with someone is amazing, I'm just not sold. I don't want to hurt him because there are still feelings there, and I just... I don't know what to do.

I don't want to stop talking to this online friend, either, because he's helped me get some bottled up feelings out and I just really appreciate that... Plus he's fun to talk to and I feel like I can be myself whenever he's online.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation? If so, I could really use your help.

[Maditude]

As soon as your bf goes snooping through your conversations, which he will, he won't appreciate it. JS. Been there been caught. It's awkward.

[Batgirl]

Have you ever had a crush on someone when you're already in a relationship?

If you haven't, just know that it's an awful feeling.

I'm not talking about just like... Looking at someone like "oh youre hot oh wait i have a boyfriend" nope. This is someone from online that I've been talking to recently that I just can't get out of my head. ;~;

And like... Dylan would be so jealous/upset that I even HAVE an online guy friend that I don't know what to say to him.
He's very set on "forever" with me. But I just graduated high school. And while the thought of spending forever with someone is amazing, I'm just not sold. I don't want to hurt him because there are still feelings there, and I just... I don't know what to do.

I don't want to stop talking to this online friend, either, because he's helped me get some bottled up feelings out and I just really appreciate that... Plus he's fun to talk to and I feel like I can be myself whenever he's online.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation? If so, I could really use your help.

oh god please don't turn into me.

please pm me?

I really don't want anything to hurt your relationship, but I've totally been there done that, and I'm sure most of cK knows it and it sucks.

[Mojo]

@(you need an account to see links) I know he won't... And that's why I'm asking for help, because I care about both of them and this has never happened before. I don't know what to do.

@(you need an account to see links) will do.

[Soul]

I feel you. I've been there before and man is that a toughie.

All I can say is, really sit on the situation. Really think hard about it, and try to figure out what your heart wants and what you feel is the best for you.
Your happiness is extremely important, and living a life unhappy... Well, is it really living at all?
So that needs to be the first thing you address. Are you truly happy? Or are you just going with the motions, HOPING things will change for the better?

Taking action to make the change is when things will start you open up and become more clear to you.

[Mojo]

I feel you. I've been there before and man is that a toughie.

All I can say is, really sit on the situation. Really think hard about it, and try to figure out what your heart wants and what you feel is the best for you.
Your happiness is extremely important, and living a life unhappy... Well, is it really living at all?
So that needs to be the first thing you address. Are you truly happy? Or are you just going with the motions, HOPING things will change for the better?

Taking action to make the change is when things will start you open up and become more clear to you.

I know... And I /am/ sort of unhappy with Dyla, you're right. And you know that.
And maybe I am being overly hopeful with our relationship.
I just don't know that I can sit on the situation and not screw something up in the process.
;~; thanks for the advice, Lukeypoo.

Oh and just remember:

Long distance relationships may sounds like a good idea, and you could be perfectly fine with it, but in reality: will you guys meet, and how long, and what if it doesn't work out?

Is it worth losing the one who is there for you now, physically and emotionally?

Things on the internet get very intimate, very fast.

I experienced this and ended when I realized how badly it would hurt my bf, and I get that it's tempting but it'll never be what you want, at least not for quite some time.

I know.. But I wouldn't even have feelings for this guy if the guy I have were enough.
I know we don't know each other, but Dylan hasn't been the /best/ boyfriend in the world lately.
He's slowly giving up his effort.

And I heard about all that happened with that... This is very similar, I'll give you that.
Thank you for the advice.

[Batgirl]

I know... And I /am/ sort of unhappy with Dyla, you're right. And you know that.
And maybe I am being overly hopeful with our relationship.
I just don't know that I can sit on the situation and not screw something up in the process.
;~; thanks for the advice, Lukeypoo.



I know.. But I wouldn't even have feelings for this guy if the guy I have were enough.
I know we don't know each other, but Dylan hasn't been the /best/ boyfriend in the world lately.
He's slowly giving up his effort.

And I heard about all that happened with that... This is very similar, I'll give you that.
Thank you for the advice.

actually, none of those are red flags, lol, no relationship is perfect.

I did most of whatever I did because sexually, my relationship was boring.

Little did I know I just had to talk to my bf and tell him my fantasies and what I want in bed and he was all for it.

When we search for online relationships, or happen upon one, it's not really because we're missing something, it's because we like the excitement.

I mean maybe you are missing something, idk.

I've been with my bf for over a year and I've recently realized he's perfect and I've just overlooked it in my excitement for someone new.

[Batgirl]

Oh and just remember:

Long distance relationships may sounds like a good idea, and you could be perfectly fine with it, but in reality: will you guys meet, and how long, and what if it doesn't work out?

Is it worth losing the one who is there for you now, physically and emotionally?

Things on the internet get very intimate, very fast.

I experienced this and ended when I realized how badly it would hurt my bf, and I get that it's tempting but it'll never be what you want, at least not for quite some time.

[Subtate]

I have a similar situation...
Aaaand, all i can say you is..
If you love your boyfriend... forget the online guy.

[Sylveon]

I too have been there. It can get confusing and super complicated, but what's important is...you need to do what's right for YOU. Don't let the opinions of others influence you. Hurting feelings sucks, but sometimes, there's no getting around it, and it's better to be honest in the end. I'm not saying make a decision on a whim, just take some time and figure out what it is you really want. Or rather, who you really want.

I hope everything works out for you and you end up completely happy. Everyone deserves to be with someone who makes them feel comfortable and just...good inside.

If you ever need someone to just vent to or whatever, I'm always around and willing to listen. I'm usually pretty good with helping out with other people's problems. It's my own I can't figure out. xD