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    idk what to do about my house situation..

    Okay, so since my girl and I broke up I am finding it hard to be around her, in many ways. Emotionally I am all over the place about us breaking up - sad, happy, pissed off, guilty.. I keep crying watching things related to couples.. I started crying last night when a couple had sex in the movie.. but then again I am so relieved, and that's why I feel guilty. Anyway, she is also starting to get on my nerves. I don't know how to act around her and it's almost awkward.

    The point of all that is, if I wanted, I could pack what I could fit in my car and have a place to live and a part-time job in a different state where I am much happier and back ith my family right away, but we are under lease until November. I would be screwing over my best friend. I am so unhappy here and I can't move on with her still sharing a room with me. FOR ME, this is the solution. For her and my friend.. definetely not the solution. I am so stressed out with all of this and I think some unbiased advice will help me. What would you do?

    Her and I have to share a room, and a bed, still. She is on parole and can't just be without a place to live. That's why she can't leave.

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    Seems you're too focused on what will make other people happy.

    Sometimes you have to do things for your self if you are truly that unhappy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kay View Post
    I would be screwing over my best friend.
    Huh? Your friend is also living with you and your ex? 3 people?

    If so, why don't you ask your friend to sleep with you in your room (no sex!) and have your ex sleep in the other room, alone? Might be awkward for your friend, but worth an ask, hey? It's only the start of June and your lease ends in November...still 5 months away (considering you've only been broken up a few weeks/a month?).

    Your friend's problem aside, I would agree with nayfeee and drop your ex. Life's about you. Would your ex do the same for you if you were in the sitch? Ask yourself that.

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    Where's the puppy from your avatar in all this?

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    My puppy looks just the same!


    If I've got this right, you're living with your ex and a friend?
    Kick her butt out, and get a new roommate. There's no reason to have to deal with all that stress hun.

    If you must leave, I'd say find someone to take up the spot as roommate... That way no one will get screwed and you can go live your life.
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    Your situation sucks I can understand not wanting to screw over your friend, so maybe Mod's suggestion is the best one? June till November is a really long time to be living like that :/ And you definitely should be more concerned about your own well being (than that of your ex)

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    maybe you can just buy out your portion of the lease ? and move ?

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    Quote Originally Posted by utahclock View Post
    maybe you can just buy out your portion of the lease ? and move ?
    That's the best option. Drop that shit like a sack of bricks.


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    I don't have that kind of money lol thats like 7 grand.. Mod, I tried it and he said no. It's his room, I told him it's fine. Honestly, I want to say fuck all of this and pack my shit and leave.

    lol and the puppy from the avatar is sitting in her cage right now, I went food shopping and went to move my car and she ate a whole fucking thing of turkey. She's my roommate's dog.
    Last edited by Kay; 06-05-2013 at 10:10 AM.

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    I'd say advertise that they are looking for anther room-mate, aftr discussing with them of course, and once they have chosen someone to live with them that can carry your end of the rent, then you are free to leave, and they will have a replacement person so that they are screwed over when it comes to rent.

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