Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 18

Thread: idk what to do about my house situation..

  1. #1
    Banned
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Gender
    Posts
    376
    Thanks
    80
    Thanked 51 Times in 44 Posts


    Downloads
    14
    Uploads
    0
    Mentioned
    52 Post(s)
    Time Online
    6 d 1 h 17 m
    Avg. Time Online
    4 m
    Rep Power
    0

    idk what to do about my house situation..

    Okay, so since my girl and I broke up I am finding it hard to be around her, in many ways. Emotionally I am all over the place about us breaking up - sad, happy, pissed off, guilty.. I keep crying watching things related to couples.. I started crying last night when a couple had sex in the movie.. but then again I am so relieved, and that's why I feel guilty. Anyway, she is also starting to get on my nerves. I don't know how to act around her and it's almost awkward.

    The point of all that is, if I wanted, I could pack what I could fit in my car and have a place to live and a part-time job in a different state where I am much happier and back ith my family right away, but we are under lease until November. I would be screwing over my best friend. I am so unhappy here and I can't move on with her still sharing a room with me. FOR ME, this is the solution. For her and my friend.. definetely not the solution. I am so stressed out with all of this and I think some unbiased advice will help me. What would you do?

    Her and I have to share a room, and a bed, still. She is on parole and can't just be without a place to live. That's why she can't leave.

  2. #2

    nayfeee's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Gender
    Location
    Manchester, England
    Posts
    1,625
    Thanks
    866
    Thanked 742 Times in 449 Posts


    Downloads
    26
    Uploads
    0
    Mentioned
    313 Post(s)
    Time Online
    86 d 12 h 55 m
    Avg. Time Online
    1 h 6 m
    Rep Power
    8
    Seems you're too focused on what will make other people happy.

    Sometimes you have to do things for your self if you are truly that unhappy.

  3. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to nayfeee For This Useful Post:

    Batgirl (06-04-2013),Drizzy (06-05-2013),Sharpie1218 (06-07-2013),Willah (06-04-2013)

  4. #3

    Mod's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Gender
    Location
    Canada
    Posts
    2,821
    Thanks
    1,563
    Thanked 4,711 Times in 2,504 Posts


    Downloads
    0
    Uploads
    0
    Mentioned
    1365 Post(s)
    Time Online
    131 d 12 h 4 m
    Avg. Time Online
    1 h 42 m
    Rep Power
    11
    Quote Originally Posted by Kay View Post
    I would be screwing over my best friend.
    Huh? Your friend is also living with you and your ex? 3 people?

    If so, why don't you ask your friend to sleep with you in your room (no sex!) and have your ex sleep in the other room, alone? Might be awkward for your friend, but worth an ask, hey? It's only the start of June and your lease ends in November...still 5 months away (considering you've only been broken up a few weeks/a month?).

    Your friend's problem aside, I would agree with nayfeee and drop your ex. Life's about you. Would your ex do the same for you if you were in the sitch? Ask yourself that.

  5. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to Mod For This Useful Post:

    Jager (06-04-2013),nayfeee (06-04-2013)

  6. #4

    Join Date
    Jul 2012
    Gender
    Posts
    728
    Thanks
    105
    Thanked 201 Times in 114 Posts


    Downloads
    24
    Uploads
    0
    Mentioned
    88 Post(s)
    Time Online
    22 d 18 h 41 m
    Avg. Time Online
    17 m
    Rep Power
    7
    Where's the puppy from your avatar in all this?

  7. #5
    Queen of Candy Land Ray-Chill's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2011
    Gender
    Location
    Tacoma
    Posts
    619
    Thanks
    683
    Thanked 243 Times in 139 Posts


    Downloads
    100
    Uploads
    0
    Mentioned
    103 Post(s)
    Time Online
    5 d 3 h 33 m
    Avg. Time Online
    3 m
    Rep Power
    7
    My puppy looks just the same!


    If I've got this right, you're living with your ex and a friend?
    Kick her butt out, and get a new roommate. There's no reason to have to deal with all that stress hun.

    If you must leave, I'd say find someone to take up the spot as roommate... That way no one will get screwed and you can go live your life.

  8. #6

    Join Date
    May 2013
    Gender
    Posts
    27
    Thanks
    13
    Thanked 5 Times in 4 Posts


    Downloads
    15
    Uploads
    0
    Mentioned
    0 Post(s)
    Time Online
    15 h 15 m
    Avg. Time Online
    N/A
    Rep Power
    5
    Your situation sucks I can understand not wanting to screw over your friend, so maybe Mod's suggestion is the best one? June till November is a really long time to be living like that :/ And you definitely should be more concerned about your own well being (than that of your ex)

  9. #7
    utahclock's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Gender
    Posts
    671
    Thanks
    361
    Thanked 376 Times in 197 Posts


    Downloads
    122
    Uploads
    0
    Mentioned
    88 Post(s)
    Time Online
    15 d 16 h 59 m
    Avg. Time Online
    11 m
    Rep Power
    7
    maybe you can just buy out your portion of the lease ? and move ?

  10. The Following User Says Thank You to utahclock For This Useful Post:

    Maditude (06-26-2013)

  11. #8
    Jauris's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Gender
    Location
    Dallas, TX
    Age
    32
    Posts
    215
    Thanks
    20
    Thanked 54 Times in 29 Posts


    Downloads
    30
    Uploads
    0
    Mentioned
    26 Post(s)
    Time Online
    3 d 18 h 52 m
    Avg. Time Online
    2 m
    Rep Power
    6
    Quote Originally Posted by utahclock View Post
    maybe you can just buy out your portion of the lease ? and move ?
    That's the best option. Drop that shit like a sack of bricks.

  12. #9
    Banned
    Join Date
    Dec 2012
    Gender
    Posts
    376
    Thanks
    80
    Thanked 51 Times in 44 Posts


    Downloads
    14
    Uploads
    0
    Mentioned
    52 Post(s)
    Time Online
    6 d 1 h 17 m
    Avg. Time Online
    4 m
    Rep Power
    0
    I don't have that kind of money lol thats like 7 grand.. Mod, I tried it and he said no. It's his room, I told him it's fine. Honestly, I want to say fuck all of this and pack my shit and leave.

    lol and the puppy from the avatar is sitting in her cage right now, I went food shopping and went to move my car and she ate a whole fucking thing of turkey. She's my roommate's dog.
    Last edited by Kay; 06-05-2013 at 11:10 AM.

  13. #10
    LittlePunker's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Gender
    Posts
    228
    Thanks
    18
    Thanked 48 Times in 17 Posts


    Downloads
    16
    Uploads
    0
    Mentioned
    19 Post(s)
    Time Online
    8 d 10 h 16 m
    Avg. Time Online
    7 m
    Rep Power
    5
    I'd say advertise that they are looking for anther room-mate, aftr discussing with them of course, and once they have chosen someone to live with them that can carry your end of the rent, then you are free to leave, and they will have a replacement person so that they are screwed over when it comes to rent.

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •